Saturday, December 29, 2012

I Can! My Resolution for 2013

I've made a resolution for my life, and it's coincidentally happening at the same time as the coming of the new year. So, I'll just go ahead and call it a New Year's Resolution, even though I don't usually make those. 

The last few weeks I've been feeling like nothings working out the way I want it to...again. This seems to happen to me a lot. I go through phases where everything is going awesome, then everything sucks, then everything is going awesome, then everything sucks, and on and on. Maybe this is typical for human beings, or maybe I'm just manic. I don't know. What I do know, however, is that the sucky times really are sucky, and I can get into a real funk about life when they happen.

Lately I've been  focusing on all the things I can't do, and feeling like my list of can'ts keeps getting longer and longer and longer. I've been obsessing so much on trying to do all the things I simply can't do, that I can't feel happy for the things I can do! This is no bueno!

Last night as I was wallowing in my misery, once again,  I realized (most powerfully) that this wallowing was taking away from my happiness in the here and now. 

My New years Resolution is to stay focused on the things I CAN do, and stop obsessing over the things I have no control over. Whenever an "I can't" thought comes my way, I am going to replace it with something I
can do.

Let's practice.

I can't surf as much as I want to.
 I can live by the ocean and  when I do get to surf, it's awesome!

I can't ride bicycles everywhere with my kids because the streets here REALLY ARE are dangerous, and it pours rain every minute.
 I can do other fun things like take my kids to the beach, and teach them how to play tennis, and go on long jogs when my husband gets home from work, and ride bikes at coconut island.

I can't find time to write the book of my dreams.
 I can be an amazing mom who is thoroughly enjoying my kids while they are little. I can read them stories, and teach them games, and cuddle their cuteness all day....and write on my blog.

I can't feel inspired to homeschool my kids without a supportive community of homeschoolers around me.
I can enjoy the special time we have together as a family to learn, and build lasting bonds together, and I can appreciate the wonderful friendships that we've made.

I can't lose the rest of this baby fat.
I can play a mean game of freeze tag with my kids! I can run, and jump, and laugh, and play, because I am strong and healthy!

There. It's pretty easy, right?.

Go ahead and give it a try! May all your can'ts turn into cans, and may all your cans turn into happiness for 2013!
Happy New Year!


arianne said...

Just what I needed to hear today. There's so much we can do.

When you're feeling bad about the rain imagine the snow here. It's so bitter cold and windy. I have to shovel the same snow off my walks every day because the wind blows it right back, ha ha.

Da Denninghoff's said...

Love it!

Sally Jackson said...

Oh Arianne, I bet you have lots of little hands, helping you shovel all that snow. xoxox
Juanita, Thanks! I loved reading about your new baby. he is so adorable!

The Estrogen Files said...

Nice work here! I need to remember this more often. Enjoy the sun for me up here in frigid Idaho.